tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post114879584501669848..comments2024-01-01T21:14:32.790+13:00Comments on Still Standing on her Head: Sunday Scribblings: First LoveCatherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08236329216260906624noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148934728790365792006-05-30T08:32:00.000+12:002006-05-30T08:32:00.000+12:00The story of the Maori boy was very sweet, but eve...The story of the Maori boy was very sweet, but even sweeter was the idea that your first love is your last. Congratulations!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06524230831950917735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148933951113264372006-05-30T08:19:00.000+12:002006-05-30T08:19:00.000+12:00the outpouring of a joy few know... of love that h...the outpouring of a joy few know... of love that has endured over time!!Tongue in Cheek Antiqueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03750859132595134235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148855149744701252006-05-29T10:25:00.000+12:002006-05-29T10:25:00.000+12:00Thanks for visiting. This is a lovely tribute to...Thanks for visiting. This is a lovely tribute to your marriage. Marriage should be something that changes over time, as long as the changes are made together. I've always told Nyssa that the best marriages or at least those more destined to stay together, are ones with a firm foundation of respect and friendship first, of being comfortable with the other person in times when we are desirable and in times when perhaps we are not. The marriages simply based on the "feeling of being in love" can't stand the test of time. Like you say, feelings, situations, life in general changes.<BR/><BR/>I can tell her these things with a strong certainty as mine was not one of the marriages that lasted. We weren't really comfortable friends first, I was in love, he went along, it took 13 years but ended in disaster. It's funny how you can't see how crooked your beginning is until years later.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations on the 35 years together. My parents celebrate their 55th in a couple of days and next weekend we go to Illinois to celebrate my Uncle's 50th. Then in October another Uncle has his 50th.srphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11751987787364198318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148852775971911772006-05-29T09:46:00.000+12:002006-05-29T09:46:00.000+12:00beautiful storya first love that is an ongoing lov...beautiful story<BR/>a first love that is an ongoing love - just beautiful~Kathryn~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05822268907677204977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148848100578791202006-05-29T08:28:00.000+12:002006-05-29T08:28:00.000+12:00*My love, however, is like my house – a house whic...*My love, however, is like my house – a house which has altered over time. We have made changes to suit our changing circumstances*<BR/><BR/>I love these lines, relate to them so much.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your honest, unsentimental post. Beautiful.claireylovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16691439928758477628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148821984850129102006-05-29T01:13:00.000+12:002006-05-29T01:13:00.000+12:00I loved reading this glimpse into your past.I loved reading this glimpse into your past.Deb Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03322863748665701618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148803643949365992006-05-28T20:07:00.000+12:002006-05-28T20:07:00.000+12:00It's wonderful that you and your husband have sust...It's wonderful that you and your husband have sustained an enduring love. Whatever drew you together, "altered" memories can't change the reality of true love. Lovely post! Thank you. And I like the story about the Maori boy.paris parfaithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457437124988976587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24246495.post-1148796944393453832006-05-28T18:15:00.000+12:002006-05-28T18:15:00.000+12:00Your question made me think of something by Univ o...Your question made me think of something by Univ of Washington psychologist, John Gottman, who has studied marriage and couples for 30 plus years. His direct research has shown that how couples remember their early days, the emotions it evokes, is more important than the details, and those couples who speak bitterly of their earliest days tend to have a far greater chance of splitting. I'm not paraphrasing his findings very well but found it really interesting nonetheless!Alex Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02109059018269508607noreply@blogger.com